How can I boost my confidence concerning my looks?
Hi, I’m 18 and have serious issues about my appearance. I tried a lot of things to be more confident, but every time I find something else on my body that I want to change. I have an overall good looking face but I hate my bottom half. I look like a baby, I have a lot of fat on my jawline and a slightly receding chin. A lot of times I feel really ugly because of this. I think that my weak chin is giving out the information that my personality is weak also. I think I will go and have a plastic surgery when I’ll have enough money. But I am concerned that if I’ll do that it won’t fix my problems with my confidence. Because now if I forget about my chin for a few days, I find something else that bothers me. I have mild acne on my face and back and it’s pissing me off. They leave horrible scars because I have a very light skin. And then I worry about my red face (I blush a lot for no reason).
I used to worry about my body too, but I finally love my body now. I came to my senses that I’m very slim and well build. I want to come to my senses about my face also, but here it gets complicated. I can’t help myself. I even never had a boyfriend, because I’m so concerned about my face. I stopped buying magazines where beautiful women appear, so that I don’t get reminded how weird I look. And I know where the problem lays, when I was a kid I used to get teased a lot and called ugly. I want to get over this. If you have any advice, please share,or if you have similar problems, tell me how you cope with it.
Thanks!
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I think your confidence problem is not about your looks. Your physical appearance is just what you use as a reason. Like you said, it is likely that even surgery won’t make your confidence issues go away. The problem is deeper than that and it looks like you already know it. You can see a therapist to help you on this.
You have esteem issues that you need to resolve before you focus on your looks. You should be focused on your career and your life options for success in this troubled economy. Concentrate on what is more important, which is your education and future.
Before you do that, get an appointment at a wellness clinic/salon like Aveda that offers a full day therapy massage, spa and facial session, as well as session in how to care for yourself and overall health. It may be spendy, but it will be the best day in your life so far, and the people there will be supportive of you and hear your concerns.
I think you just have to stop worrying about what you look like. Now that doesnt mean stop showering or brushing your teeth. But if you want to boost your confidence I would say go look in the mirror, and no matter how you feel about your face, tell yourself you’re so sexy and no one can say different. Forget the people that called you ugly because they are stuck on the looks when they need to focus more on the personality. I used to think I was ugly plenty of times but I learned that I am beautiful on the outside because I’m beautiful on the inside too.
Feel good about yourself and your looks will follow.